Monday, November 21, 2005

More on Victoria's Secret and Prosti-Tots

No, we're not going away on this topic--the Victoria's Secret displays continue to attract attention (in their own way) and disapproval, this from a clinical psychologist in the DC area:

I heard about it in my kitchen before I read about it in the newspaper: After visiting the expanded Tysons Corner Center this fall, my 23-year-old daughter said, "You won't believe how weird Victoria's Secret's gotten: It's all red and black with a bunch of mannequins that look like porn stars." Some shoppers were so outraged at the raunchy lingerie display that they threatened to boycott the store; others just yawned.

I've been hearing a variation on this theme with increasing frequency in my office. Mothers voice distress over the suggestive clothing their teen and preteen daughters are wearing, inside and outside the house. In fact, conflict over clothing is what prompts them to come in for family therapy. The daughters themselves may be imperious or sullen, but almost all employ the everyone-is-doing-it excuse. And an awful lot of girls are doing it.

Women once complained about being reduced to sex objects. Now, their daughters are volunteering to be sex objects.

So what's the problem?

Another even bigger problem I see is indecision: Parents lack confidence in their instincts and in their judgment. Previous generations had no trouble making hard and fast rules. Parents in those days looked like and conducted themselves as adults and role models; kids and teenagers wanted to grow up and get the perks of adult life as soon as possible. Therapists see the inverse today. There are lots of parents who are uncomfortable with their grownup role and want to be young again; their kids don't want to grow up, or wish to postpone it as long as possible.

The "Question Authority" generation poisons its own children--

The article is interesting, to say the least.


Neo-Con Tastic said...

Very interesting analogy of parents and children. I see that going on - especially in the south. Parents are neglecting their children because they still think that they are the children. Prosti-Tots and the "lack of fabric fad" are very common down here.

Disgruntled Car Salesman said...

What really ticks me off is the fact that these chicks advertise their bodies to predators. Then, when the predator makes his or her move, the little girl will scream her bloody head off. The action of said predator is never justified, so in no way do I condone what their actions may be. However, I choose the word predator to describe these people because they are equivalent to animals. And, if you take a peice of meat and wave it in a predator's face, what do you think it will do? Hmmm?

Scarlette said...

The problem with your post is that you're blaming those "chicks" because we have predators. Saying that a girl is responsible for a man to maybe look at her with passing lust is one thing but to hold her responsible for the actions of a person who can't control themselves is quite another.

And, if you take a peice of meat and wave it in a predator's face, what do you think it will do?
Act like a freaking uncontrollable animal?

Fidei Defensor said...

Adults refusing to grow up, two words, Micheal Jackson

Disgruntled Car Salesman said...

I don't hold a girl/woman/young lady/chick responsible for for the existence of predators.

I blame a girl for not having the common sense to recognize the fact that these predators exist. Then, to not have the sound state of mind to dress themselves in a more appropriate manner in order to prevent themselves from being a more vulnerable target of said predators.

No one, and I mean NO ONE is accountable for the action of another person. Obviously these young ladies aren't accountable for the actions of these predators. But they need to act more condusive to that of a young lady not looking for trouble or unwanted comments/actions/etc.

Futhermore, predators can control their actions. If I can control myself, anyone can. To admit that a predator cannot control his/her actions is an invitation for these people to continue their onslaught of heinous crimes. You give them a backdoor excuse that would sound something like "I just can't control my urges. I am sick in the head. Please, I plead insanity!" Then, when these creeps serve 6 months in the looney factory and are deemed safe to return to society with the use of medication, they will continue to "not be able to control their actions."

'Nuf Said!

Scarlette said...

I agree with everything you said.
I was a little worried about this statemen, though: Then, when the predator makes his or her move, the little girl will scream her bloody head off.
I don't think girls go out "asking for it", I think they are simply looking for a little attention. I know that's not what you meant. I know that you meant she shouldn't be surprised if that happens. But, I don't think you understand what a girl without guidance from anybody thinks. She really doesn't think.

Media is a powerful force today; girls believe that how sexy they look is the sum of their existence because ads, t.v., etc. keep saying so, and nobody tells them differently. They will never learn to think for themselves either. Who is going to teach them what decency is? It truly is not their fault.

Put the blame on the baby boomers. Most of the crap in this world is their fault. (Sorry Dad.)